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Why it’s so hard to restart




By Brian Foley from Activate Fitness


If you’ve ever procrastinated or struggled to start something despite having every intention to, you’ve undoubtedly felt this huge force: friction.

One definition of friction is ‘the force that opposes the motion of an object’. And while that works, another definition, one far more relevant to the context of today's topic, is a ‘conflict of a clash of wills, temperaments, or opinions’.

And when we look at friction as it pertains to motivation or habit change, that’s exactly what it is: a clash between who you are right now (Present You) and who you want to be in the future (Future You).

“Future You” is the mature, rational part of you that wants to do all the things it knows it should be doing like eating better, going to the gym, getting enough sleep, etc.

“Present You” is the childish part of you that wants to keep doing what it’s always been doing. It doesn’t want to change because change is hard and scary and it means taking responsibility.

For example, Future Me wants to write this article while Present Me wants to go on Instagram and mindlessly scroll for hours because it's easier than writing.

These two conflicting goals create an insurmountable amount of friction, so, instead of doing either, I end up sitting here watching the cursor mockingly blink at me as time passes by.

Then, before I know it, it’s lunchtime and I have dozens of other things to do and writing this article gets relegated to the imaginary place that is tomorrow where the entire process repeats itself.

Of course, you’re reading this article which means I overcame Present Me, finished it, and sent it for publishing.

How to beat Present You

1) Set small, achievable goals

Set small, realistic goals you’re confident you can achieve.

If your goal is to lose 30kg, for example, break it down into 2kg chunks.

2) Focus on the actions that will move you towards the goal

Now that you have a goal in mind, focus on the things you need to do every day that will move you towards your goal. You can do the same thing with nutrition.

3) Get a quick win

One of the reasons Present You is so reluctant to do the things you want to do is because it doesn’t believe you can do it, so you need to prove you can by getting a quick win as soon as possible on starting your goal.

4) Give yourself a deadline

If you don’t have a deadline, it’s very easy to become complacent and lose urgency. Having a deadline keeps you focused and stops you messing around.

What should your deadline look like? It depends, but I'd suggest setting a goal of losing 0.5-1% of your total body weight per week, and then use that as a rough guideline to work out how long it will take you.

5) Reward yourself

Nobody wants to work hard on a goal and not see progress. The rewards solve for that.

Each time you achieve your small goal, you receive a small reward that tells you you're doing a great job and you're on your way to your bigger goal.

It’s perfectly normal to feel a bit demotivated as you restart on your goals. Use the tips in this article to help you restart.



Killarney centre stage for Pride Festival

The award-winning Kingdom Pride in Kerry festival is back next week and Killarney will take centre stage. Kingdom Pride will be celebrated in towns all across the county from July […]




The award-winning Kingdom Pride in Kerry festival is back next week and Killarney will take centre stage.

Kingdom Pride will be celebrated in towns all across the county from July 17 to 21.

The organisation’s flagship Party in the Park event will be held again in Killarney House and Gardens, following the Pride march in the town centre on July 20.

This year, in solidarity with the people of Palestine, Kingdom Pride in Kerry is inviting the people of Kerry to come to show their unity by bringing Palestinian flags and kites to the march, and to the Party in the Park.

“Pride is a protest for human rights all over the world. Here in the Kingdom, we have been so lucky to receive tremendous community support from our allies and supporters, and we see the struggle for liberation of all peoples as a united cause,” said Daniel Quirke, chairperson of the organising committee.

“Our events have always welcomed everyone, regardless of gender, orientation, religion, or nationality. We truly believe that together we can create positive change through caring for and loving one another. This year is no exception, and we look forward to helping to highlight the Palestinian cause, and to bringing people together to keep generating positive change for all people.”

Events will take place in Cahersiveen, Listowel, Killorglin, Tralee and Dingle, and include an Irish comedy night with Áine Gallagher, an Irish-language movie screening, yoga, sea swimming, poetry and storytelling, bowling, pitch and putt, a lively drag night at the INEC, and plenty more for people of all ages.

“We do our best to keep tickets as low-cost as possible, and we have lots of events that are totally free to attend. It is important to us that people can share Pride with us, regardless of income. Especially with the rise of the cost of living putting a strain on people’s pockets.” added the chairperson.


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A weekend of Live Music, Fun and Entertainment, at FleskFest 2024

The organisers of the annual FleskFest have “a tremendous line-up, with a weekend full of entertainment to suit all” for the July 18 to 20 event. “It promises to be […]




The organisers of the annual FleskFest have “a tremendous line-up, with a weekend full of entertainment to suit all” for the July 18 to 20 event.

“It promises to be the festival weekend of the summer, an event you don’t want to miss out on. Last year’s Festival was a fantastic memorable experience for our community, a time to get together and celebrate,” said festival PRO Seán Daly.

Organised by Glenflesk GAA, FleskFest 24 will take place at the Barraduff Community Field next week.
There will be a fully licensed bar in the Fest Marquee, some amazing live music on The Big Stage, food trucks and much more.
Glenflesk GAA club’s biggest fundraiser of the year includes a new-for-2024 Texas Holdem Poker Tournament on Thursday night.
Weekend highlights include old-time waltzing, jiving and polka sets with Paudie McAuliffe and Paudie Coffey Band on Friday,
On Saturday, the new Well Flesk event will take place.
“A morning of self-care and wellness at Flesk Fest featuring masterclasses in yoga, pilates, mindfulness, spinning, fitness sessions, workouts, firewood sauna and ice pods with a range of experienced and qualified instructors,” added Daly.
Leading local musician Johnny Courtney and Friends, Sam and Ina, The O’Donoghue Sisters, Reigning All Ireland Champions Glenflesk Ballad Group, and The Border Boys will take to the Big Stage over the weekend.
Sunday is Family Fun Day with children’s entertainment and disco and the All-Ireland Hurling Final Live on the Big screen followed by music with Thingamajig.
The festival will finish with a Sunday evening session with the Meadhbh Walsh Band.

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