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Do we all have the same 24 hours in the day?

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By Brian Foley from Activate Fitness

Anyone who knows me or has been reading my columns/blogs for any length of time, you already know that I get really upset when I think someone is being taken advantage of, or if I see someone making elitist and misguided judgements against anyone based on their appearance or lifestyle.

That’s why, when someone recently said the following to me I got a little upset:

“The majority of the population don’t get results because they lack the self-discipline and probably could benefit from at least pushing past sitting on the couch every day.”

My argument against most ‘fitness influencers’ and even some supposed fitness professionals in general is that the regimes, typically six to 12 weeks, they take their clients through are punitive and have no lasting value. They don’t teach people anything about their relationship with food and their bodies, and they can be physically and emotionally harmful.

But anyway, I initially didn’t answer the comment that this person made because I don’t tend to argue with people whose minds are already set, and their information is gleaned from David Goggins for psychology and 'Men's/Women's Health Magazine' for physiology, I typically just leave it.
People have the right to disagree with me, and why argue?

Afterwards, someone who overheard this conversation asked me why I didn’t engage.

I didn’t respond to the comment because I don’t agree with what was said about ‘self-discipline’ and ‘sitting on the couch all day,’ which is exceptionally ableist.

Besides the fact that the comment implies that overweight/unfit people do nothing but sit on the couch all day, which makes steam come out of my ears, what they said is very similar to the meaning behind the quote, “we all have the same 24 hours in the day”.

I’ve seen this 24 hours comment a lot, especially in 'Nutrition Challenge' and fitness circles. It drives me absolutely insane.

Here’s just a few quotes I pulled from online:

“No one is too busy in this world. We all have the same 24 hours. It’s all about priorities.”

“People tell me: “I don’t have the time to do this business.”, Lies; We all have the same 24 hours in a day. You make time for what you want. No excuses.”

“We all have the same 24 hours in a day. If someone else seems to be accomplishing more than you, they’re sacrificing more than you.”

When I look at these quotes, all I see is blame and humiliation.

Is it just me?
No excuses?
Is everyone else sacrificing more?
Lack of direction?

These things don’t even enter into the equation for an entire cohort of the population. Posting or saying any of this shows a complete lack of insight into the real-life struggles that others have.
Not only that, it rubs their faces into these struggles.

I’m pretty sure that when someone throws around the ‘same 24 hours in a day’ thing, they’re just trying to make themselves feel good by making other people feel like crap.

And although they’re meant to be ‘inspirational,’ these sayings shame others into feeling as though they aren’t trying hard enough to meet other peoples’ expectations for them.

Needless to say, it’s nobody’s job to meet YOUR expectations of how you think they should be running their life.

There are a lot of reasons why someone might not work out, or be ‘successful’ in meeting their health and fitness goals, but I’m willing to bet that none of these reasons are simple.

People are complex, and to sum them up in a blanket comment doesn’t do them justice, nor is it fair.

Sure, the laws of time apply to everyone. Nobody has 27 hours in a day.

But real life, not ‘excuses,’ can impact a person’s ability to just ‘get off the couch’ and live a life that’s the stuff of an inspirational quote.

No matter how hard some people work, life still challenges them beyond their capabilities.
Yes, there are always outliers, and their stories are the ones that make it into the media.

Someone who was living in abject poverty, with no home and living on Social Welfare and who is now the CEO of some company.

Even some ‘fitness gurus’ have “failure to success” stories.
People love this stuff, and it’s great for marketing and sales.

But the majority of people have lives that won’t turn out that way, and that has nothing to do with their level of motivation or the number of hours in their day.

Next week read Part Two where we look at some research as to why many people are challenged when it comes to fitness due to things that can throw a spanner in the works of even the most persistent of people.

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Marie Meets: Marie Murphy

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Pedalling kindness and serving smiles

For more than twenty-two years, Marie has been the warm heart of the canteen at Killarney Community College. Every weekday from 9am until 2pm she prepared fresh food from scratch, served generations of students and staff and somehow managed to nourish far more than empty bellies.

“There was never a day that I hated getting up out of bed to go to school,” Marie told me.

Now there’s a sentence you don’t hear every day. I couldn’t help thinking there were probably quite a few students over the years who might not have shared that same enthusiasm for early mornings.

When the school’s Breakfast Club became part of her day, it meant an earlier start, but she never saw it as another job to do. She saw it as another opportunity to be there for the young people walking through the school gates.

Schools are remarkable places because every child arrives carrying a story that nobody else can see. Some bounce through the gates full of excitement while others quietly carry worries far bigger than their school bags. You never truly know what kind of morning a child has had before they arrive. Sometimes all it takes is one familiar smile, one cheerful greeting or one person noticing they’re a little quieter than usual to make the day feel just that little bit lighter.

Marie was that person.

She had an ear to the ground without ever making a fuss about it. She knew when to chat, when to encourage and, just as importantly, when to quietly step back.

By lunchtime, however, there was no mistaking who was in charge.

“I’m sure you could hear me over in the Sem telling the children I’d close the canteen if I didn’t see two clear lines,” she laughed.

Among the many treasured retirement cards she received were messages that read, “Marie, you never did close the canteen,” and another that admitted, “Marie, I think I owe you about €30.”

“There was no backchat from the students,” she said. “I find a ‘Hello, how are you?’ costs a person nothing.”

As a testament to just how much Marie meant to school life, a group of students approached members of the teaching staff looking for photographs of her. They carefully put together a scrapbook filled with memories and presented it to her before she left. It was a gift made not because they had to, but because they wanted to.

Outside school, Marie is almost as well known around Killarney for her bicycle as she is for her sandwiches. She has never driven and happily pedals her way around town in every season. Her trusty basket even sports a homemade rain cover fashioned from a plastic tablecloth because, as any seasoned cyclist knows, you have to be prepared for every forecast.

When she is not cycling, she is creating.

Crochet, knitting, sewing, cooking, Marie simply cannot sit still.

“I always need a project,” she smiled.

During the years she worked evening classes in the school canteen, she longed to join the sewing class herself but could never leave the canteen unattended. Instead, she listened while she worked, picked up what she could, bought herself a sewing machine in Lidl and went home and made herself a skirt. That one skirt was only the beginning.

Family, of course, will now take centre stage.

Marie and her husband Donie have three children, Colm, Alan and Aoife, along with five adored grandchildren. Little Gracie is just six weeks old, while Theo, Noah, Ori and Ailbhe ensure there is never a shortage of fun.

This August promises to be one big family celebration. Aoife will be home from the United States with her family, Alan will travel from Alicante, where he teaches, to celebrate his fortieth birthday, and Colm and his family will make the journey from Cork. Add in Donie’s seventieth birthday and there will be plenty to celebrate.

“We’ll do something small as a family,” Marie smiled, “but I’d love us all to go away together for a night or two.”

Marie may have parked her apron, but don’t expect her to put the brakes on.

Deirdre, one of her colleagues, smiled as she remembered that Marie’s favourite word was “Nowso.”

Karen said the echo of Marie’s infectious laugh will be missed throughout the school.

Marie Keane wished her “a retirement as wonderful as you are.”

Friend and colleague Brian O’Reilly perhaps summed it up best when he said, “Retirement is not the end of the road for Marie. It’s the beginning of a new adventure.”

Retirement may mean the end of Marie’s daily cycle to Killarney Community College, but the kindness she quietly pedalled into the lives of generations of young people over the past twenty two years will continue long after the school bell rings. Every morning she offered far more than breakfast. She offered familiarity, encouragement and the reassuring feeling that someone had noticed them. In a busy school, and in an even busier world, that is a gift beyond measure.

Knowing Marie, retirement won’t slow her down. There will be sewing projects to finish, grandchildren to spoil, bicycles to pedal and plenty of new adventures to enjoy. The bicycle will still be rolling through the streets of Killarney. It will just have a little more time to enjoy the journey.

Photo & Story by Marie Carroll O’Sullivan

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West End House presents ‘By the Bog of Cats’

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The West End House School of Arts will present an upcoming adaptation of Marina Carr’s acclaimed play, By the Bog of Cats, later this month.


The production is directed by Charlie Hughes and will run on July 29 and July 30 at the Great Southern Hotel.

Set in the landscape of the rural Irish bogs, Carr’s play follows the story of Hester Swane, a woman with a deep connection to her land.

Tormented by the memory of her mother who abandoned her, Hester faces further betrayal by the father of her child, leading her on a path of vengeance as her history is revealed.


Tickets for the performances are priced at €20. Bookings can be made online via Eventbrite or by calling 087 13 77 196.

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