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By Brian Foley from Activate Fitness

A famous former Kerry Footballer was once credited with saying: “There’s only six inches between a pat on the back and a kick up the arse” - and he was right!

Quite often we defer to platitudes rather than harsh truths.

I recently came across a young coach who wanted to please everyone, and you know what they say about wanting to please everyone? You end up pleasing no one.

This coach’s heart was in the right place for sure and wanted to be liked and keep clients happy, but by telling everyone they were “doing just great” and never having a hard chat with clients, it transpired no one was making progress.

You see, a good coach’s responsibility isn’t just to tell you how great you are, even though encouragement and positive reinforcement are of course vital.

Sometimes you need to be told it’s your fault or, sometimes you need to be told, you need to work harder, so let's do this instead. Perhaps a problem with the modern world is we’ve become too conditioned into taking offence and only wanting to hear good things about ourselves, but that really serves no one.

Would you rather be on the receiving end of a kick up the arse and get told the reality of a situation and start making some progress towards solving it, or just continue to receive the pat on the back and never solve the issue at hand?

If any of the below sentences apply to you, they may seem harsh, but you may need to hear it:

* It’s your fault if you are overweight.
* It’s your fault if you are unfit.
* It’s your fault if you aren’t where you want to be in life.

Once you stop looking for someone else to blame, stop accepting the meaningless pats on the backs from toothless guides, then you can start to strive for what you want.

This may come as a shock to some of you reading this.

After all, I own a gym that we like to call “the happiest place in Killarney”, but you see, being a happy place isn’t all about telling everyone they are great all the time, sure, if someone works hard and achieves something they previously couldn’t, well then get ready for that pat on the back! It’s time to celebrate!

But you don’t achieve happiness by just accepting the status quo and being pleased, placated and rolling over and having your belly rubbed. We’re also in the business of changing lives, and that doesn’t happen with pats on the back alone.

If you want to get results, if you want to get fit, if you want to succeed at something, you sometimes need that kick up the arse, and a good coach knows when it’s time pat or kick.

If you’re ready to have an honest conversation about your health and fitness and start to make meaningful changes to your life, schedule a free consultation today by visiting our website: www.activate.ie.

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Killarney couples renew vows at St Mary’s Cathedral

Several couples celebrating significant wedding anniversaries gathered last Saturday at St Mary’s Cathedral to renew their vows. The annual event, organised by Killarney Parish Administrator Fr Kieran O’Brien, is a […]

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Several couples celebrating significant wedding anniversaries gathered last Saturday at St Mary’s Cathedral to renew their vows. The annual event, organised by Killarney Parish Administrator Fr Kieran O’Brien, is a local tradition for those marking significant milestones and anniversaries.
Fr O’Brien was assisted by Fr Vitalis Barasa.
Following the ceremony, the couples, along with family and friends, moved to St Brendan’s College for refreshments. Attendees exchanged stories, and reminisced about their wedding days.
Couples Celebrating Anniversaries:

25th Wedding Anniversary

Andy and Norma McHugh, Carhoonahane, Beaufort
Mike and Sheila Daly, Glean Tober, Gortdromakerry, Muckross
Cathal and Mairead Dunphy, Lyranes Lower, Glencar
Michael and Susan Keane, Aughacasla, Castlegregory

30th Wedding Anniversary

Bernadette Randles and Vincent Casey, Muckross Road
Paul and Deirdre McEnteggart, Ashgrove, Firies
Tony and Teresa O’Gorman, Glosha, Cromane, Killorglin
Seamus and Ella Clifford, Ardaneanig
Hillary and Moira Fleming, Whitebridge
Donal and Caroline McCarthy, Countess Road

35th Wedding Anniversary

Paudie and Joan Mangan, Riverhaven, Coolcorcoran
Michael and Marian Lucey, Knockeenduff
Liam and Marie Courtney, Minish East

40th Wedding Anniversary

Joe and Caroline Hurley, Whitebridge Manor
Michael and Cliona O’Sullivan, Knocknasartnett
Sean and Margaret McCarthy, Kenmare Road, Muckross
Noel and Rita Curtin, Pinewood Estate
Tim and Catherine Moriarty, Gortagullane, Muckross
Neilly and Bridie O’Mahony, Knockeragh
Donal and Linda O’Donoghue, Knockeenduve
Padraig and Mary Kissane, Minish

45th Wedding Anniversary

Tony and Marie Nolan, Whitebridge Manor
Jerry and Lena Kelleher, Islanderagh, Rathmore, Co. Kerry
Liam and Helen O’Brien, Rookery Road

50th Wedding Anniversary

James and Margaret Arthur, St Brendan’s Place
John and Chris Mannix, Flesk Lodge, Muckross Road
Patrick and Breda Moriarty, Gortagullane, Muckross
Batt and Nora Healy, Upper Lissivigeen
John and Margaret Mc Carthy, Muckross Grove
Sean and Mary Kavanagh, “Tiriúil”, Muckross Road
Frank and Siobhán Lewis, Gortagullane, Muckross
Bernie and Katherine Cronin, Knopogue, Aghadoe
Ted and Phil Ahern, Faha
Michael and Kathleen Doyle, Carhoonahone, Beaufort
Joe and Breeda Lyons, Kilbrack, Oakpark, Demesne, Tralee
Eckhart and Patricia Gogsch, Demense, Ross Road
Will and Teresa Burke, Muckross Grove

55th Wedding Anniversary

Paddy and Mary Casey, Gortacoosh, Glenflesk
Pat and Alice O’Sullivan, Minish
Michael and Noreen Marshall, Muckross Grove
60th Wedding Anniversary
Marie and Sean O’Brien, New Road
Jimmy and Myra O’Gorman, Dunrine, Tralee Road
Pat and Joan Cahill, Flesk Bridge, Muckross Road
William and Maura O’Neill, Park Drive

63rd Wedding Anniversary

Sean and Breege O’Donoghue, Flesk Castle, Mill Road

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Trainee chef wins two medals at Chef Ireland Competition

Iryna Kravchenko, a chef trainee from Killarney studying on the City & Guilds Diploma in Food Production and Cooking Programme, has won two medals at the Chef Ireland Competition. The […]

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Iryna Kravchenko, a chef trainee from Killarney studying on the City & Guilds Diploma in Food Production and Cooking Programme, has won two medals at the Chef Ireland Competition.

The competition, held at the RDS last month and hosted by The Panel of Chefs of Ireland, saw Kravchenko receive a gold medal for the Hand-Crafted Chocolates Competition and a Silver medal for the Hot Pudding Souffle Competition.
“We are immensely proud of our students and their dedication and hard work earned them their awards,” said Frances Griffin, Catering Instructor at the National Learning Network in Tralee.

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